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It’s extremely difficult to be mentally and physically healthy in an extremely sick world 🌎 _____ Countries fighting with countries, wars and threats of war, unfair trade wars , sick drug trafficking, lying stealing and cheating in every neighborhood around the country. Cost of living is outpacing personal income. And we wonder why society and individual households are so messed up…..

Therapists need massive training around emotional/psychological abuse specifically with covert abusers. I experienced massive trauma from a therapist who was completely triangulated by my ex because I was utterly unhinged - even 5150’d - during the course of our therapy. Attempts I made to protect myself after incidents of abuse like blocking him were labeled as stonewalling. Prior to our relationship his wife died mentally collapsed on the streets of our hometown. These people are very dangerous and mental health professionals need to up their game. Like seriously

He was the one that was acting out. I set a boundary, never telling him what to do, but before we dated I was very clear that this type of addic is a no go for me. He took 6 months, and supposedly healed, did stop as he stated it was because of his last marriage that he used. He was happy and clear and focused. Then one year ago he went back to it. Hid it from me. Again, I never asked anyone to stop,, I clearly stated I can't be in a relationship with people that do Y or X for example. He is a kind partner, a devoted, and loyal partner, but I can stomach lies. I feel so betrayed. and again he makes promises, with sincerity. How can I trust this?

You’re funny, I like your vibe, good video great lighting. Subscribed. :)

This is the story of my life. Living in a very sexist society, I'm used to being the crazy person, who will end up alone because I'm too sure of my worth. As every man in my life, almost, puts down women and then get us sick and then it's our fault, and we need to be SOFTER. Well, I'm for sure crazy and for sure will not take no sh*t from anybody. It's hard.

I told my counsellor off post my separation as to this issue exactly! He was so charming to her and she could not see through him in fact she enjoyed his attention wasting first 15 minutes every session on his bs! Thank for the validation ❤ and good riddance.

i don't think you can really heal. its like when someone close to you dies, you don't really heal. you always remember

You aren’t taking into consideration that the abused usually become abusers. A lot of times the abused stonewalls and takes no responsibility for their behavior. That’s why they seem to be seen as an abuser because they usually have become an abuser and feel justified. Instead of always trying to excuse unhealthy behavior because of abuse, maybe try dealing with the unhealthy behavior in both of them. That’s a woman thing, you are basically saying he was the abuser so her behavior doesn’t need to be addressed until his is addressed and solved. You know this, you are just creating job security by conflating situations, and creating new issues daily. Suddenly 1 in 6 people are narcissists and there 46 types of narcissistic types and almost any behavior imaginable can be conflated with narcissistic traits. Therapy is important and can be amazing but if your therapist talks about issues like the pride folks talk about gender, run away as fast as you can and find a new therapist.

All signs expect one but what do i do? After my wife passed away i found out about a on going text and email affair. I don't know if a physical affair occurred. I'm at a loss for how to deal with it or what to do.

Best video on this stuff by a mile - so so accurate. Thank you.

I went through this gaslighting and betrayal with my 42 year old married son leaving me left holding the bag to heal as he’s not about to go to therapy with his mom unfortunately. People truly don’t understand the effects of these behaviors physically spiritually and emotionally. Devastating and most painful thing I’ve ever been through

Thank you great resources! All of your videos are such great resources and give a name/tools to the the feelings these kinds of situations bring.

A totally misleading title. Don't waste your time watching this.

Went to family coucelling with my parents where the sexist psychiatrist demonized my Mother for not understanding what her husband had to go through to support " the family" even though she worked as a nurse and managed the home ! It was very telling as a young teen witnessing how the system supports the Male and shames the Female.

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People need to know that the person who has been betrayed is confused and has to find their way while the betrayer is in control. Just because the betrayer is in control does not mean they are the one that is right.

I went to a couples therapist because my partner was a pathological liar, porn addict and was living a double life using substances. This young woman said to me in front of him, "would you rather him watch porn or actually physically cheat?" In this way, she validated him, so he continued the porn use, even doing it at work. When I caught him and told him it was wrong, he said, "I hate you, I'm going to kill you," and then strangled me.. I had to call 911, and he went to jail. Be wary of modern-day young therapists and the damage that they can do. Because she took his stance that men have a right to a double life and to harbor sickness, I was nearly killed for actually knowing the difference between right action and wrong action and daring to enforce it.

the number one sign of gaslighting is confusion. one thing is said and another done. it’s almost like spinning out of control mentally. emotional is different. this effects your stability as a person and your ability to trust what you are seeing.

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Sounds like you’re targeting men specifically as the monsters. Because let me tell you women do the same and much worse.

I know how trauma feels I just want to know how to get past it. It's all I care about

Reassure her. Let her know that if she was your girlfriend, you would make love to her constantly.😂

No communication

He said if I am so bad, why are you here. ?

Last summer I was not me. Didn’t know what to do. Authorities do little. They are not for the VICTIM

I was accused of having an affair. Then he told me he screwed women with his first wife. I was told by a few people, if he did to her he will do it to you

Yes no matter what you just feel all alone. I have no family, he has many.

Something was missing, I knew I had to find out, things were ok until I got a friend for the first time since we have been together. My attention was not on him , opened up a Butterfly habitat, I think he went into a narc injury, but it was all my fault

It’s a nightmare Wish all of you the strength to heal

This would all be a lot more helpful if the group was not so expensive to join. Not because they don’t deserve to be paid for their time but why doesn’t insurance cover help like this?:(

Thank you for this episode; I’m finally at a healing point where I can hear this enough to believe I’m not crazy.

I am crying hearing her speak what’s been going on. I finally feel some validation and I’m not crazy. It’s absolutely unbelievable to me that this is something.

I’ve been a therapist for 28 years and I’ve never heard of a therapist doing this to a patient. It’s offensive to suggest this happens in therapy.

how can the betrayed even entertain a plan to stay in these relationships or attempt to fix them? I find this incredibly difficult to believe once trust has been breached you can go back

My ex was a horrible person. I guess a covert narcissist, wasn't the "its my world and youre living in it" type but more on the needy vulnerable helpless side. She had sex with the person she was seeing at a hotel across the street from my job after the breakup (obviously so ill never forget her). She did this in response to me denying her of the control she had over me for a few years both with financial assets that were in my name and any mental control she had over me. The decisions she made after i told her no pretty much woke me up, i was able to see who she actually was. You may ask "how do you know that she did that?" Well the snooping was all done to protect myself, because i wasnt insecure about her loyalty throughout our entire relationship (i learned to just trust your partner) until i realized I was just being used. They are EXTREMELY good liars. Do not give them anything.

I couldn't say it any better...my life in a nutshell for 30 years...insane!!!

If you have been betrayed and your therapist/counselor cannot and does not say it WAS 💯 wrong and focuses on your wound and need for Safe space First so you can and want to keep going, including what that other person must do to address that breach so you all can have honest communication with the counselor then it WILL Likely lead to more trauma and toxic behaviors by the betrayer AND the Counselor as Triangulation is almost inevitable sadly. If the counselor is trying to search out "reasons "for the betrayal instead and doesn't seem to care you are still in shock and not on solid ground due to being blindsided and in deep grief, YOU MUST RUN!! That is NOT a person who can handle this situation and basic fact that MOST people cheat for reasons that have NOTHING to do with the partner at Hand and are cheating or lying about other areas in their lives and will again even with other partners. The assumption should be the betrayer IS the immediate problem and then as time goes on and details emerge THEN the counselor may use that evidence and observations to go on a different path. BUT the Betrayed NEEDS SAFE space FIRST because they are already in Trauma and In at Least ONE stage of Grief whereas the betrayer may not feel anything about it that even Looks like Grief or remorse yet.

Im just going to stop caring.

What about betrayal by a boyfriend when you were committed to them? He just abandoned me and started seeing someone behind my back and then lied when i asked him about her. I caught them out together and broke it off. Its still heartbreaking.

No kidding. You get so stressed over time you may not realize how crazy your looking. But be encouraged, if you realize they never loved you, let em go... you'll feel better and will regain your health. Physical and mental.

Thanks for your messages. How could we get contact with you on the phone?

Thank you. I felt so validated ❤ it helps.

Communication key and can strain a relationship. Techlotion allowed me to identify communication gaps by monitoring my partner's conversations discreetly. It served as a catalyst for improving our communication and understanding and deed made the difference!

We need to more trauma informed specialists

Being victimized by your special person is bad enough but to be victimized by friends, family and therapists is pouring gasoline on the fire 💔

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You’re a victim you’re a victim you’re a victim NO!!! Just stop it!! Save your marriage Stop listening to videos like this where they try to make you the victim.

My therapist was great. She never did that. She saw right through him.

Wow!! Thanks so much!¡!❤❤❤❤